Making the Best Use of Your Divorce Attorney

It goes without saying that hiring a family law attorney can be costly.  However, there are ways that a client can mitigate the costs that they spend on their family law attorney, and I recently read about a new trend that appears to be on the rise with parties who are going through legal family issues, one of which is the hiring of a “divorce coach”.

By now, most people have heard of “life coaching”.  Life coaches set out to help one identify and figure out any major issue that is going on in their life, whether it be overall fulfillment, the development of a new career, or other issues.  Divorce coaches apparently are similar, in that they help the parties navigate their ultimate final outcome and how to achieve said goal.  Divorce coaches are not, and can in no way be, a substitute for legal counsel.  They cannot give legal advice, nor are the able to give legal advice.  However, based upon the latest trends, these coaches set out to help with the areas of a divorce that an attorney is not best equipped to handle.  This includes the mental and emotional issues that can coincide with a divorce.  A divorce coach might help a party cope with how to use new found time when their minor children are at the other parent’s home, or developing a new routine, or getting them back into the work force or into a path for furthering their education.  I find that as a divorce attorney these issues come up and clients often seek advice on how to best proceed.  I enjoy talking about these issues with clients and trying to resolve these issues, but it is not my expertise by any means.  Having a divorce coach really could help a client with these issues, and, in turn, they would pay a much lower hourly rate to a divorce coach than they would to their divorce attorney to discuss these non-legal issues.  I think that if used properly, divorce coaching has a real use for a divorcing party.  The only problem I foresee is that anyone can become a divorce coach.  There really aren’t any specific certifications that are required.  In choosing a divorce coach I would suggest looking for someone who has a background in divorce law, or divorce mediation, in some capacity.  It would be most beneficial to a client to seek advice and help from someone that at least has a background in this area and knows what they can expect.  However, given the right individual is acting as the coach, there really is a market for this type of service.

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