The last part of our “Parenting Time Schedules” series is the 80/20 parenting time split. Originally, this was a very common schedule, but as of late, the trend is moving towards both parents having closer to equal parenting time, unless there are circumstances that make splitting parenting time not in the best interests of the children. There are numerous ways to create an 80/20 schedule; below are the four (4) most common.
- Alternate Weekends: The alternating weekends schedule has the child living with one parent and visiting the other parent every other weekend.
- 1st, 3rd & 5th: The 1st, 3rd and 5th weekends schedule has the child living with one parent and visiting the other parent on the 1st, 3rd and 5th weekends.
- 2nd, 4th & 5th: The 2nd, 4th and 5th weekends schedule has the child living with one parent and visiting the other parent on the 2nd, 4th and 5th weekends.
- Every 3rd Weekend: The every 3rd weekend schedule has the child living with one parent and visiting the other parent every 3rd weekend.
The issue most parents have with the 80/20 schedule is that one parent has significantly more time with the children then the other parent. If you decide on an 80/20 schedule but you want to give the other parent more time with the child you can do that using the holiday schedule or the summer break schedule.
Spending physical time with your child isn’t the only way to build and strengthen a relationship. The parent who has 20% of the time should make more efforts talk to the child on the phone and contact the child through texting, facetime, online chatting, and other technological means. This can help you feel part of the child’s life even if your child is spending more time living with the other parent.