The “3 weekends in a row” Conundrum

It is fairly common for parenting time schedules to alternate weekends between the parents. So, Parent A has the children one weekend, the following weekend they are with Parent B, and the weekend after they are back to Parent A. It is also fairly common for parties to alternate major holidays, and for those holidays to fall on a weekend. For example, Labor Day and Memorial Day both fall on Mondays, but lots of parties will award whoever has said holiday the preceding weekend as well, so it would be the Friday or Saturday before Memorial Day, until Memorial Day in the evening, to give a parent a large amount of time. This can create what I refer to as the “3 weekend in a row” conundrum.

The “3 weekend in a row” conundrum occurs when a parent’s holiday weekend falls between their two weekends. So, if the weekend schedule normally went Parent A, followed by a weekend with Parent B, followed by another weekend with Parent A, it would now look like, due to a holiday: Parent A’s weekend, holiday weekend with Parent A, followed by Parent A’s actual weekend. Anyone can see that this invites a scenario where Parent A has three weekends in a row, and Parent B has three weekends where they do not see their children.

Some parties don’t mind this, as it tends to even out later on when the same thing happens, at one point or another, to Parent B. Some parents find this absurd and want to find a way to fix it. Those parents will typically put something in a parenting time order that says the weekends will “reset” when any parent has two weekends in a row, so that the third weekend always falls to the other parent. Both scenarios have pros and cons. Some parents don’t mind the three weekends in a row on occasion, believing at some point it will happen to the other parent as well, and, they don’t want to reset their weekends so that they can plan long term. Other parents want the assurance that they won’t go more than two weekends without their children. It is a matter of personal preference, but something to be aware of when agreeing to a schedule.

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