Most parties who have an Allocation or Custody Judgment of some sort address the issue of not talking to the minor children regarding court proceedings or financials, such as child support. However, during the pendency of many cases, people who do not have such orders will sometimes engage in these behaviors. This can be very damaging to their children as well as to their case, for the following reasons:
(1) Judges hate it. They absolutely cannot stand hearing that parents talk to their children about court or child support.
(2) Parenting Time is not conditioned upon payment of child support. The law is very clear on this, yet people still discuss it with their children and try to raise it as a defense to not letting the nonpaying parent exercise parenting time.
(3) Guardian Ad Litems/Child Representatives hate it. This is a pet peeve of anyone who is involved in the case who is looking out for what is in the minor children’s best interests.
(4) It is not in the minor children’s best interests to discuss these things. Court proceedings cause the litigants enough anguish, anxiety and stress. It is not hard to imagine what this sort of information would do to a minor child. It is not in the best interests of a minor child for any of these topics to be discussed with them and any parent who does discuss these things with them will be frowned upon by the Court and the GAL/Child Representative.